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01. Big boys
If you’ve ever been described as one or more of these qualities, you’re either a hearty bowl of soup 😏 or you may be a big boy. And if that’s the case, read on, big boy.
02. Sniffies: The latest cruising app you've probably never heard of
The world of online dating in Aotearoa has come a long way since the days of NZ Dating (which, amazingly, still exists???) We’ve now moved from a society where saying you met online was frowned upon, to a society where it’s weird to find a couple who actually met ‘the old-fashioned way’. Grindr, Scruff, Jack’d and Squirt have historically been the biggest queer-specific options. And now, we also have Sniffies.
03. How to prepare for anal sex
Preparing for your first time having anal sex might feel daunting, or maybe you’ve tried it a couple of times and it just hasn’t worked out the way you wanted it to. This guide, from people who’ve done it before, will have you ready to go having anal sex safely in no time.
04. Desirability politics and fetishization
Buckle up girlies, gays, and theys, because we’re talking about desirability politics and fetishisation. This blog speaks to the experience of someone who is Asian and queer. This article cannot speak to but acknowledges all the varying experiences of queer, trans, Black, Indigenous, and people of colour when it comes to fetishisation, desirability politics, and sexual racism.
05. Rimming
Welcome to the hole-timate guide to rim jobs! Rimming is the ultimate bottoms foreplay, to relax a hole, and get it ready to be fucked. A relaxed hole makes it much more enjoyable for you to slide in AND decreases the risk of tearing the anus when you enter. Tears in the anus increase the chance of HIV and STI transmission. Rimming; tastes great and good for you! So, if you’re just curious about dining, you’re a full conn-ass-eur, or even if you were looking for car rims and ended up down a fun rabbit hole, get ready to learn some tricks and licks!
06. Your guide to cruising
Simply put, cruising is when you scope out potential sexual partners in public. Cruising first became popular as a way for people (mostly gay men) to meet for casual sex before homosexuality was legalised but it’s still going strong today, particularly for those who enjoy its particular risk and anonymity. Cruising spots in New Zealand / Aotearoa and around the world have become popular, and some cruising sites have become infamous, among in-the-know communities.
07. Sides don't belong on the sideline
When it comes to preferred sexual positions in the queer world, there is a ton of diversity. Top, bottom, vers, vers top, vers bottom, dom top, sub bottom, power bottom, alpha top... What do all of these sexual positions have in common? They typically involve penetration. But what if penetration just isn’t your thing?
08. Group sex 101
Group sex can be both incredibly hot and rewarding but also intimidating and nerve-wracking, even if you’ve done it before. Will you know who’ll be there? What if you’re not into someone? How does it start? And what if your ex is there...? To answer all your burning questions, we spoke to a few group sex aficionados who imparted a ton of wisdom. Whether you’re curious about getting jizzed on by a bunch of randoms, or whether you regularly organise play parties and want to level up your hosting game, this one’s for you.
09. Scat play
When we think 'fetish', chances are, we could probably create an endless list: feet, watersports, leather, bondage and so on… But typically, the most taboo fetish on our list is scat. But what is scat? Scat (short for scatophiliac) refers to a sexual fetish that incorporates feces into sexual play, such as defecation on a partner, smearing and/or consuming.
10. Ethical porn
Like with many other products, pornography “can be ethically or unethically produced and consumed.” Ethical porn emphasises and prioritises the labour conditions and rights of performers. The term organically came about in the early 2010s when porn consumers started to question lots of differing opinions of what ethical porn actually means. A lot of us watch porn to get off or for mere entertainment. But how often do we think about the porn we’re watching.