Getting fucked really hard is a pretty major goal for a lot of us, but many who’ve tried it will know that it can be a painful endeavour.

Don’t worry though, we've got good news: getting fucked hard doesn’t need to hurt - in fact, it shouldn’t hurt at all. Below are some tips on how to get destroyed - without getting destroyed.

Tip 1 – Know how things work

There are two points of pleasure in a guy’s butt, and they're the reason that anal sex feels good. Hotspot number one is the anal opening and hotspot number two is at the prostate, which is about a thumb’s length in towards your belly button. You’re not actually going to be physically stimulated by a dick going any deeper, and it’s probably going to hurt as they start poking around at your intestines.

Tip 2 – Practice

Get comfortable feeling pleasure at the anus and the prostate; toys will help with this. Investing in a small butt plug or dildo will help you reach your prostate and from there you can learn exactly what angles work for you to get fucked at. Build up the size of the toy you use until you’re confident you can accommodate your partner’s cock up there.

Tip 3 – Preparation

A couple of things to keep in mind here. First up, what have you been eating today? Want to get slammed after a day of Burger King and spicy curries? Probably not a great idea. Eat sensibly, make sure you don’t need to go to the bathroom, and if you’re worried, maybe look at douching. Secondly, and most importantly, use condoms and plenty of lube, or consider taking PrEP. Rough sex doesn’t mean unsafe sex, and getting fucked hard puts you at a higher risk of tearing the skin, muscles and lining in and around your butt, it’s doubly important you use condoms to reduce the risk of contracting an STI.

Tip 4 – Communication

You need to be able to let your partner know when something is working and when it’s not: your arse, your rules. It’s a lot easier to tell them you’re uncomfortable when you know what position to suggest instead, so make sure you put in the ground work training your hole and learning how to get fucked.